My first blog





So here I am, writing my first blog. I have a smile on my face knowing that I am actually doing this. Its friday afternoon, im starving and wasting time until my office holiday party. For the past week I have been stuck reading “Mike the master dater” blogs. And I thought, I think I should share my experiences, my advice and my thoughts.Along with reading Mikes blogs, I just finished reading the book. “Deal Breakers, when to stay in a relationship and when to move on” So could you have guessed, Im going through a break up? 3 Year long relationship, that wasnt consistent to begin with. So now I am trying to figure out if what we ‘really’ had and what  I am holding on to is real, or if its a bunch of BS and its time for me to move the F on. Here I go sending stupid texts like “have a good day.” Do I really want him to have a good day? of course not! i want him to miss me and to feel sad and to chase me. so why the heck do i say have a good day? to initiate convo? We broke up because he cheated. I always thought if I was a good girlfriend, that karma would reward me with a good boyfriend. BOY WAS I WRONG! Not to say that he isnt a good person, but he isnt a good boyfriend. I made a list. A list of 24, of the man I would HATE to be in a relationship with. It goes like this

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4.jealous goals/no jobs

6.not family oriented

7.has no faith or religion

8.not supportive

9.loves to talk about himself

10. doesn’t like to be around my friends/ or in a social setting

11.who waits for me to do “man duties” around the house/car, etc.

12.doesn’t have a job

13. who asks me where i want to go or what i want to eat and then says no (soo annoying)

14.not affectionate

15.doesn’t want to try/do new things, or think of things in another persons perspective, closed minded

16.doesn’t see me as equal

17. doesn’t believe that compromise and sacrifice is part of relationship

18. “crosses the line” with text message to girls

19.doesn’t make me a priority (i understand we all have busy lives but BALANCE is important)

20. doesn’t surprise me or spoil me ONCE IN A WHILE (i am not the kind of person to ask for much, i would rather give than receive BUT sometimes it would be nice to know you are thought of)

21. not proud to be in a relationship

22. Who says they are going to do something but doesnt

23. doesn’t remember things/favors/comments that I say or ask


The best thing I know to do its cut it off. Too bad its easier said then done right? My ex and I are still sleeping together, still get annoyed when one person doesn’t reply “fast enough” to texts, still talk almost on a daily basis, and im sure its just me who is reading these damn book. So what is really the deal between us? No one knows. So I will update you on my journey and my true feelings. I know im not in this alone. The older I am getting, the more people (guys and girls) that I meet, and the more BS that I go through, has made me realize that a lot of us girls are in the same situation (maybe not exact, we all have our little twist to the story) and that the more BOYS I meet and date, the more I realize they are all the same and probably wont be ready for a real relationship for long while.

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